Today is Mother’s Day. I would like to start my talk with a joke from the Catskills and then a story from China.
First the joke, about doing what your mother tells you to do.
It’s morning and a school\u00a0day. David is still in his room. His mom\u00a0goes in. “You’ve got to get up for school, David.
“David pulls the blankets over his head and replies, “I don’t want to go to school, mom.”
“But you have to,”\u00a0says mom.\u00a0
“I don’t want to. The teachers don’t like me, and all the kids make fun of me.”
Mom\u00a0pulls the blanket back a little. “David, you don’t have any choice. You’ve got to get up for school.”
“OK, OK,” says David. “But only if you give me one good reason!”
“I’ll give you two,” says mom. “You’re 52 years old, and you’re the principal!”\u00a0
Mom knows best, remember that. Now for the story from China.
Cai Shun lost his father when he was young so he lived with his mother, who he loved very\u00a0much. Because there was a war going on, food prices were very high. Because Cai and his mother were very poor,\u00a0they could not afford to buy rice. So, every day, Cai would go into the woods to\u00a0pick mulberries for his\u00a0mother and him to\u00a0eat. One day, while Cai was out gathering mulberries, he encountered enemy soldiers. He was very\u00a0afraid of what would happen, because he was just a boy and they were very\u00a0strong men with swords and spears. The soldiers noticed that he had not one basket of mulberries, but two. The soldiers\u00a0asked him why he separated black and red mulberries and placed them in different baskets. Cai replied that the black ones (which tasted sweet) were for his mother while the red ones (which tasted sour) were for himself. The soldiers were reminded of their own mothers. Impressed by Cai’s love for his mother, they carried a sack of rice to his home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jesus kept all the commandments. Of the first ten given to Moses, the fifth one reads, “Honour<\/a> thy father<\/a> and thy mother<\/a>: that thy days<\/a> may be long<\/a> upon the land<\/a> which the Lord thy God giveth thee.” Even as Christ was dying in agony on the cross, he took time to have a thought for his mother: we read in John 19:25-27<\/p>\n\n\n\n 25 Now there stood by the cross of Jesus his mother<\/a>, and his mother\u2019s sister, Mary the wife of Cleophas<\/a>, and Mary Magdalene.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 26 When Jesus therefore saw his mother, and the disciple<\/a> standing by, whom he loved, he saith unto his mother, Woman<\/a>, behold thy son!<\/p>\n\n\n\n 27 Then saith he to the disciple, Behold thy mother<\/a>! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Christ knew that he was to die and he knew that he must see that his mother had care. He gave that task, lovingly, to his apostle John. The implication from this, of course, is that Christ took loving care of his own mother as he lived. The very Son of God, the Atoning One, took time and effort to ensure that his mother was cared for – and made it a priority in his life. He said that he was about his Father’s work, and part of that work was to care for his mother. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The connection between parents and God has been obvious to scholars of many faiths, throughout time and recorded history. So it is with us: anyone who gives us the gift of life cannot ever be repaid. Therefore, honor and respect is due to that person. We keep that person’s commandments because of our love and our gratitude. We are loved unconditionally, and so we find ways to return that love in placing a priority on the person who gave us life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Under Jewish law, which Jesus observed and which gives us more detail on keeping this commandment, only a parent’s request to disobey God could be refused. Anything the parents asked for within the bounds of righteousness, the children were required to provide. Jesus set this example in John 2:3-4:<\/p>\n\n\n\n And when they wanted wine, the mother of Jesus saith unto him, They have no wine. Jesus saith unto her, Woman, what wilt thou have me to do for thee? that will I do; for mine hour is not yet come.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you wish to honor your mother, try that attitude. Promise to yourself and your mother: mother, as long as I live, I will do what you ask me to do. You will keep the commandment that way and be blessed all the days of your life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The great composer Giacomo Meyerbeer lived in 19th-Century Germany. Even though there was great oppression against Jews, his mother had raised him to respect and honor that religion. Giacomo stayed true to what his mother taught. After his grandfather died, Giacomo wrote to his mother, \u201cPlease accept from me a promise that I will always<\/em> live in the religion in which he died.\u201d And he did. That, my brothers and sisters, is a powerful way to honor our mothers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Another rule for keeping the commandment is for children to let their mothers know how they are doing, so that their mothers do not worry about them. Jesus showed us that we can never be too preoccupied to take a moment to speak with our mothers to console them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Whether our mothers be living or dead, we can also honor them with the study of scripture and applying the lessons of the scriptures in our lives. Living righteously honors our earthly parents as much as it does our Heavenly Father. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The commandment extends to anyone who offers care for us, even if they are not our direct parents. Those who teach us in church and in schools are due this respect and honor. Any woman who offers righteous guidance and wisdom to us is mother to us: honor that person in doing that which is righteous, without argument, complaint, or criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nephi included an account that pains me to read. While his brothers claimed to be righteous, they were guilty of drawing near to God with their lips, but being distant in their hearts. They claimed to keep the commandments, but committed a severe breach of observing them when they bound Nephi with strong cords while they were on their voyage to the Promised Land.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In 1 Nephi 18:17-18, we read<\/p>\n\n\n\n 17 Now my father, Lehi, had said many things unto them, and also unto the sons of Ishmael<\/a>; but, behold, they did breathe out much threatenings against anyone that should speak for me; and my parents being stricken<\/a> in years, and having suffered<\/a> much grief because of their children<\/a>, they were brought down, yea, even upon their sick-beds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 18 <\/strong>Because of their grief and much sorrow, and the iniquity of my brethren, they were brought near even to be carried out of this time to meet their God; yea, their grey hairs<\/a> were about to be brought down to lie low in the dust; yea, even they were near to be cast with sorrow into a watery grave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What pain do we bring to our mothers when we fail to be righteous? May such a day never come, may none of us here ever bring grief and much sorrow because of our iniquity. May we all deepen our desire to observe our covenants, to do the daily tasks that build up our righteousness, that such a day never come to our homes. May we make that promise to ourselves and our mothers to live righteously and never waver in our righteousness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Jesus honored his mother. We should all learn from what he did, that we might keep this commandment ourselves. Eight times is this commandment repeated in the Bible – mothers and fathers both get first mention when the commandment is repeated. Therefore, we must show this love for our parents, this honor for our parents, equally. We do not honor our fathers and then our mothers. We honor both at the same time.
What I say today can apply to both parents, but I am drawing a line of emphasis under honor and respect due our mothers today, due to the occasion of this being Mother’s Day.
The commandment to honor our mothers is understood to be more than just smiling and saying nice things about them. We must support them and see to it that they are cared for, that they have enough to eat, a good home, clothing, and companionship from us, their children. This commandment also applies to stepmothers, mothers-in-law, and grandmothers. <\/p>\n\n\n\n